“Duane Honnold died this morning.”
This is how I was greeted the 7th of March, arriving at the Madison County Livestock Auction to look over a set of yearling bulls. We were in the midst of an unusually mild string of March days. The bulls looked nice on display. Either of these would have been normal starters for conversation, but on that day they were just too common to do.
Duane was 90, and I had only really gotten to know him over the last few years as I became more active in the Madison County Cattlemen’s Association. A cattleman is how I will remember Duane, but like most cattlemen, he was a lot more than that.
He was a stone mason, a teacher, drove a truck, drove a school bus, was building inspector, the past president of the county pork producers, the county cattlemen, a county Farm Bureau member, a commissioner on the Madison County Soil and Water Conservation Board, a 4-H leader, a Lion’s Club member, an elder of his church, and the list goes on. Longer than he had done any of those things, however, he had been a husband to his wife, Edna, for 71 years. They enjoyed the type of collaborative partnership nearly all hope for in getting married, but plainly speaking, most find elusive.
Duane struck me as a man who was very particular about what he wanted. What he wanted was the best, and naturally those who were affiliated with him benefited from the results. The results live on in Madison County and beyond, from the stonework of the north shelter house at the Winterset City Park to county fairs around the country and their peddle tractor pulls which he’s given credit for establishing.
Edna is every bit his equal, and I always wondered how that worked. How could two people, equally particular on what they wanted, form such a strong bond with nary a quarrel? I finally figured it out a couple of county fairs ago. Outside the fair booth was Duane’s domain. Inside was Edna’s. Duane never forgot that, and Edna never had to remind him.
Together they were a power couple long before anyone had ever coined the term “power couple.” They remained so always.
Attending his funeral, I thought I would see Duane one final time, yet when I got there I realized I was mistaken. What was before me was just his body. I thought of all the people in my own life that were still living, and I had failed to see any deeper than that. Duane seemed to see beyond it, and even as a church elder, saw something more in an individual smoking with the sulfuric smell of brimstone like me. Because of that, he will live on for some time, especially for us fire eaters.
A week later, at yet another Madison county bull sale, Edna, along with her son, Dwight, and his wife, Lynn, came into the sale barn. They sat up in the rafters, and after awhile I went up and took a seat beside Edna.
I hadn’t visited with her since Duane died, and before I left, she lightly grabbed my arm, looked me in the eye, and said she didn’t want the Madison County Cattlemen to forget about her. She wanted to stay active. I was moved. Edna and Duane had been part of the Cattlemen since the Cattlemen began.
I was also moved by her strength. Most of us will live our lives convinced if we can only become harder, life won’t touch us. We will, and it won’t. Edna reminded me that true strength isn’t shown by us getting harder, but by the ability to be vulnerable to whatever life throws at us. Our hardness is a crutch for what was already broken. Vulnerability is nothing more than having the strength to bend.
I suppose understanding that is what made her and Duane so capable in working with us stones.
“And one more thing,” Edna added, “I don’t want to see the Cattlemen go downhill.”
Neither do I. Judging by the masons, the roof might leak, but the walls are sound. And God knows, if Edna is willing, there’s nothing going to be headed downhill in the Cattlemen’s booth when fair times rolls around.

Duane. If I’m not mistaken, in front of some of his handiwork. Photo stolen from the Winterset Citizen webpage.

