Out of the pocket of her robe she produced a cell phone, and with the press of a couple of buttons she placed a call.

“They got the tests done, I’m just waiting for someone to take me back to my room.”

Her voice fit who it came from.  The person on the other end asked no questions.

“I just wanted to let you know how it went.  I’ll talk to you later.”

The business with the phone had startled me.  I had been watching her, and up till then she seemed largely unanimated.  When the call was over, she returned to her previous state.

Earlier, when I had sat down, my attention was drawn to the wall-mount television on my right.  I was trying to make sense of both the words and the volume, as I looked over to see Donald Trump speaking about how he wished someone would punch someone else in the mouth.  I lost interest, and my eyes would come to rest on her.

She sat in a wheelchair ahead of me at roughly the same distance I sat from the TV.  Of all those in the room, she seemed the least likely to look back.  There was safety in that.

Hunched over in her hospital gown, she wore a robe over her shoulders for extra warmth.  He hair, still mostly brown, spilled down over the robe, as her head followed the curve of her back and tilted forward, leaving her mouth open and her eyes staring down blankly at her lap.  One leg protruded at a 45 degree angle and at its end it produced a pale-white foot, wrapped in a snow-white bandage.  Her mouth had no teeth, and beneath the bandage were no toes.

As she hung up the phone, it appeared that she was going to look out over the rest of us.  I looked away.  Eventually, an orderly showed up, and I looked up to find the person that had briefly appeared before me was gone again.

“All right, are you ready to get back to your room?”

There was a nod.  The orderly reached down, released the brakes, and they were on their way.  Finally, she had some company.

In greeting friends and family in the hospital, we use flowers and a smile, but in greeting the sick we don’t know the preferred method seems to be looking down at our own shoes.  Our mothers told us not to stare, and so we put it into practice by not even daring to look.  I think one is the same as the other.

Presiding over mass that Sunday was a rather nondescript, retired priest, who had sat quietly beside the altar, and when he rose to deliver the Gospel, he approached the lectern slightly bent with age. With a slow and steady voice, he read the following passage from Luke:

There was a rich man who dressed in purple garments and fine linen and dined sumptuously each day. And lying at his door was a poor man named Lazarus, covered with sores, who would gladly have eaten his fill of the scraps that fell from the rich man’s table. Dogs even used to come and lick his sores.

When the poor man died, he was carried away by angels to the bosom of Abraham. The rich man also died and was buried, and from the netherworld, where he was in torment, he raised his eyes and saw Abraham far off and Lazarus at his side. And he cried out, ‘Father Abraham, have pity on me. Send Lazarus to dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue, for I am suffering torment in these flames.’

Abraham replied, ‘My child, remember that you received what was good during your lifetime while Lazarus likewise received what was bad; but now he is comforted here, whereas you are tormented. Moreover, between us and you a great chasm is established to prevent anyone from crossing who might wish to go from our side to yours or from your side to ours.’

He said, ‘Then I beg you, father, send him to my father’s house, for I have five brothers, so that he may warn them, lest they too come to this place of torment.’

But Abraham replied, ‘They have Moses and the prophets. Let them listen to them.’

He said, ‘Oh no, father Abraham, but if someone from the dead goes to them, they will repent.’

Then Abraham said, ‘If they will not listen to Moses and the prophets, neither will they be persuaded if someone should rise from the dead.’

Fr. Pfeffer paused a moment and stretched out both hands on either side of the lectern, wrapping his fingers around its edge. He looked down once more at the text and then scanned those assembled. When his eyes reached the far wall, they followed it upwards as he drew a deep breath. Finally, he spoke.

“You know, I often wonder what the rich man did to earn an eternity in Hell. He never beat Lazarus. He wasn’t verbally abusive to him. He didn’t spit on him, nor mock him, nor go out on the street and try to shoo him away.

Instead, it appears the rich man didn’t even notice him. I suppose that, my friends, is enough.”

And with a final look at the text, he unwrapped his fingers from the lectern, walked back to his chair, and sat in the simple silence of the place.

Lovers have placed padlocks on the Teschin Bridge in Odessa for decades, often on their wedding day.  After clasping the lock, they walk down to the shore of the Black Sea and toss their key into its waters.  Then they go home and do their best.  The locks remain, though, and are viewed by some as a testament to the permanence of the one feeling they hope won’t fade:  true love.

Being from Madison County, an area prone to linking unrealistic romance with bridges, I felt for the Ukrainians.

We rarely know where our feelings come from, we have little control over them while they are here, and all too often we wake up with no idea where they’ve gone.  We spend our breath, we cover the miles, and we devote our dollars to chase the unattainable.  Perhaps we damage love most by forcing on it our own definition of what it is supposed to look like.

In doing so, it’s not the lock that is symbolic.  It is the key.

Several stories exist concerning why the Teschin Bridge was constructed.  One of them states that a high ranking party leader lived on one side, and his mother in law lived on the other.  Every morning she would cook him pancakes, and every morning he would trek down the side of his ridge and up the side of hers to breakfast.

Some will reason he loved pancakes.  Some will reason hers were exceptional.  If reason is the goal, however, then I suspect neither he nor his wife could cook, and the price was right.

Even more realistic yet, I bet pancakes got old after awhile.  I bet burnt ones became more and more common.  Yet the husband continued for the same reason every husband does what he does not want to do:  his wife.

He chose it.  He chose it every day.  He chose it in spite of the pancakes her mother burnt.  Perhaps she threatened him every morning with a rolling pin, or perhaps he knew love was something more than a feeling.  It’s a choice, and every time he made it he clasped the lock again.

We had lunch at the barn and were now heading in to see our calves sell.  Joining us was a high school buddy of mine and his two daughters.  Lily, 10, was beside me.

“Have you been to a sale barn before?”

“No.  This is my first time.”

“Well, I’m sure your father told you, but try not to look the auctioneer in the eye.”

“Why?”

“If you do and make the slightest movement, he’ll call it a bid.”

“But…I can’t buy anything…I’m just a kid.”

“Happens all the time, Lily.  Some kid sneezes and BAM!  He bought a pen load of cattle.  I’m really surprised your dad didn’t warn you.”

The joke has been around as long as there have been auctions.  I heard it when I was 7 or 8.  I now have friends who are auctioneers.  I still don’t trust them.

Lily sat on her hands for the next hour and a half.

“That guy in the window is buying almost all of them,” observed Abby, 8.

“He’s what they call an order buyer.  He’s buying cattle for several different places, likely in several different states.  This guy over here by that phone is one too.”

“What are they going to do with them?”

“Well, right now they’re about half-grown.  The buyers will raise them the rest of the way.”

“Will they all be beef?”

“No.  The steers will, but some of the heifers will go back to be cows someday.”

“What if we wanted to buy some calves?”

“We would have to bid against people like the man in the window, and get your sister’s hands out from under her.”  They both smiled.

The calves were weaned the first of November.  They were weighing around 600 pounds then.  Here, on New Year’s Day, they were weighing just under 800.  They had been healthy, beat the mud, and looked good.  They sold well.

“Are you happy with what they brought?” their dad asked.

“I think so.  It’s just over $600 a head less than they did last year, though.”

“Did you say $600 less per head?”  I nodded.  “Wow.  That dollars up in a hurry.”

“Yea, but we are lucky.  The market had a little bounce the last ten days.  Some saw well over a $700/head difference.  Last year was exceptional.  This year is fairly similar to where they sold two years ago.”

“Were people expecting last year’s prices to stick around?”

“Almost everyone was predicting they would.  Some took those predictions with a grain of salt, but I don’t think anyone was expecting this swift of a correction.  It is putting a ding in quite a few pocketbooks.”

“What will people do?”

“Same thing they always do.  Try and make it.”

As we made our way out, Lily was beside me again.

“That was neat,” she said grinning ear to ear.

“It looks to me you’ve found out who the happiest person after an auction is.”

“Who is that?”

“The one that still has all their money.”

“So what’s your process?  What do we need to do to get the magic to happen?  Crown and Coke?”

I smiled.  The thing about the Hawks is their hospitality.  Their kitchen alone is the size of a home.

I was offered a seat in the middle of the kitchen table, in front of a laptop with two Word documents.  The first was the prepared obituary that had already ran in the paper.  The second was the notes from the night before, made as each shared their stories.  Whoever typed them had done well.  Each condensed a story into single line.

Surrounding me was the family of Jim Bussanmas, now deceased.  I was nervous.  A little Crown and Coke should help with that, I thought.

A little is key.  In writing one searches for what we all search for:  redemption.  It’s best not to get sloppy going after it.

“What’s this line,” I asked, taking the first one off the screen:  “‘I never thought I would live so long and have this much fun?'”

“He said that when he went into the VA for the last time.  He was always trying to reassure us.  He did a good job at that.”  As stories continued about his final stay, I placed the line at the top of the obituary.

“It’s quite a quote.  It also says he tried to enlist at 16?”

“He sure did, but they made him wait.  He went in at 18 and became a Seabee.”  Adding that detail to the account of his military service, I looked up to find a picture held in front of me of Jim when he enlisted.  He looked more man than boy.  “Look at how trim he is.  Ladies must have went crazy for him.”

“Dad had a great appreciation for women.  It started with his devotion to Mary, and he would call all of us his ‘dollies.’  He loved my mother, and after she died he would come to love Rozella.  They were quite a pair.”

As this was being said, another picture was selected and held in front of me.  “When the two of them got to laughing the room shook until you thought the walls would come down.”  And as the stories continued, I found the sentences that mentioned both women and added another:  “In their company he was happy.”

The story of an old RV, “Holy Moses,” became a vehicle itself, conveying his love of faith, family, conversation, and travel.  Another paragraph would catch other lines that made his family’s eyes glisten.  One final sentence would capture the story that made eyes more than glisten and would mention the man that called him “Dad.”

A couple of hours, and it was done.  A few more sentences to sum up the years.  I was thanked for writing them, but I hadn’t of course.  Jim had, and a lifetime, and a family, and redemption.  And what were those but all the ingredients necessary for the magic to happen?